I found this blog a while back called The Middle Finger Project. Yes, that’s what it’s called. Really.
The name drew me in. I mean, how could I not with a title like that? The content made me a follower.
The author is a no-nonsense, no-fluff, tell-it-like-it-is kind of gal. She says what she thinks whether it’s popular or not and sometimes says it with colorful language. Not that there’s anything wrong with that. And, her website kept inspiring me. I’m tough to inspire.
Ash Ambirge is a writer/blogger/author. She makes her living writing and helping those who want to have (or better) their own business, on their terms. She has figured out how to take what she’s learned and help others with the knowledge. Not a bad gig.
I Had to Wait a While to Get the Book
After having read most everything on her website, I was excited when I learned she had a book coming out. I immediately went to my trusty pal Amazon and pre-ordered the Kindle version on November 29. And waited…impatiently waited. It wasn’t due for release until February.
I would visit her website about once a week, hoping that the book would magically have a closer publish date. The more I read, the more I decided I kinda want to be like her when I grow up.
The Middle Finger Project Arrived!
The Middle Finger Project: Trash Your Imposter Syndrome and Live the Unf*ckwithable Life You Deserve by Ash Ambirge appeared on my Kindle on February 10. Sadly, I had another Kindle book and an Audible book going, so I wasn’t able to immediately start it. Fast forward a few weeks and I opened it…and I’m sorry I didn’t start it sooner.
First off, I love her style. She writes how I imagine she talks. It’s pretty much her telling her story, from a very poor girl living in a trailer park with her mom to where she is today. Along the way, there’s tragedy, triumph, toxic relationships, good relationships, amazing self-realization, and more.
I’ve been reading it in the evenings off and on for about a week. Last night I was soooooo close to finishing, and I was simply too tired. Yes, I fell asleep with ten pages to go, iPad on my tummy. When I woke a few hours later, I gave into the tired and put the iPad away.
I finished it today, (during daytime hours even,) because it’s that good and I wanted to write this. The message I took away is simple:
- You don’t have to follow the “right” path if it’s not right for you
- Don’t overthink
- Don’t worry about being brave
- Forge your own path
- It’s ok to be scared
- Learn to trust yourself
- You don’t have to be a victim of your circumstances
Awesomely basic and oh so enlightening! I mean seriously, this is logical stuff that can easily derail someone if they let it…someone like me.
And now I want to gift it to some of my friends. Seriously. I really do.
Why The Middle Finger Project Clicked with Me
I’ve spent years trying to overcome my younger years. I’ve beaten myself up for every poor choice. I’ve punished myself for things I shouldn’t have. I’ve lived a lot of my life scared of life.
I grew up poor. I have no idea how the parents did it with the little income we had. As much as I struggle with that relationship, I give them credit for that one. I’m not a total monster.
As an adult, I’ve struggled, chosen poorly where men are concerned, taken jobs for the income rather than to feed my soul, been scared, and tried to live up to other people’s expectations. Ash Ambridge gets it. She had in her at a young age what took me most of my life to find, that THING. Bravery? Tenacity?
She didn’t want the trailer park life so she made a plan to get out. I started planning my exit from my childhood home at the age of 12. She didn’t let fear hold her back. I did.
She’s not married. I’m not married. She doesn’t have kids. I don’t have kids. She’s taken many leaps of faith. I’ve taken a few.
Who Should Read This Book?
Every woman on the planet. Seriously.
Read The Middle Finger Project if you are a woman who wants to quit her job and do what she loves, get out of a bad relationship, who wants more out of life, wants to try the path less traveled, wants to figure out what her passion is. A gal who wants to find her brave and her voice and her super-hero power. (OK, I haven’t found my super-hero power, but I’m working on it.)
A girl who doesn’t want to be afraid of saying, “NOT TODAY BITCH” and mean it.
Visit TheMiddleFingerProject.org and learn more about Ash, her words of wisdom, and her book (and take in one of the greatest home page images I’ve ever seen, ha ha!
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